Lesson: "Blair & Shae, remember to lean on each other and neither of you will fall." - Alice
We worked over two years getting our house ready to sell and after putting so much 'blood, sweat, and tears' into our little 3002, when it came time, we just wanted it to be over. A 'For-Sale' sign down the road caught our attention; so we took a shot in the dark, called the agent's number, and Alice came into our lives.
Our first meeting was supposed to be a walk through the house and a quick chat; but it turned into a three hour conversation filled with laughter and the history of of our neighborhood. Turns out, she lived just a couple blocks down from us, and was the owner of a home we'd slowly walk by, night after night, hoping to catch a glimpse inside its beautiful sun-room. Three days after going on the market, an offer came, and once again Alice was at our dining room table. We spent a few more hours laughing, talking, and sharing stories of memories made in our homes. She was also getting ready to sell; downsizing because it was just her and her husband now.
One of our last nights in Duluth, Alice texted to see if we could stop by. I was excited because finally, after 5 years of walking past that sun-room, I was going to be in it! And just as I had expected, it was warm, cozy, and as I stood there, I could feel how much love this room had held. Alice had asked us to stop by because she had gifts for us - a large US map to track our route, a full paper atlas for the times our phones just didn't cut it, and two beautiful journals to record our thoughts along the way. At the time, I thought it was a touching gesture, but it didn't fully hit me just how special those gifts were until today. Alice, a 'stranger', not only supported the new life we were embarking on, she was excited for us!
There have been so many moments of adventure and joy in this journey. We don't regret the path we've taken.....but.....it has also been hard. There have been many moments of disconnect between Blair & I. Through times of things not working properly, of our focus needing to be on pushing forward rather than looking inward, and of the mundane day-to-day existence getting to be too much, we've sometimes forgotten each other and how lucky we are to be doing this. We're both still trying to find our groove in our new way of living; trying to balance work and play, trying to get things organized so we can feel more settled, and trying to be mindful of purposeful moments together when we're together 24/7.
This morning I read a comment, from Alice, on my latest post...I read the words, "My John passed away in February so I now find myself trying to find my path without him." My heart sank. I thought of the blank space left in her life without John...and then I thought of how big my blank space would be without Blair. It was a reminder my heart needed...
We're still trying to find our way in RV life. But in the days ahead, on the days we're struggling most, I will think back to Alice's words, and lean...lean on Blair's love for me, and mine for him. In all the noise of stress, I had forgotten to be thankful every day that I get to walk life's path with him. I will be careful not to forget again.
Alice, our hearts are hurting because yours is. We're thinking about you with each new journal entry, and wishing you all the best on your new path.